diff --git a/changelog.d/1399.feature b/changelog.d/1399.feature
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+Outgoing presence is now disabled by default, and the config option documentation has been adjusted to more accurately represent the weight of presence, typing indicators, and read receipts. Contributed by @nex.
diff --git a/conduwuit-example.toml b/conduwuit-example.toml
index 3220b382..095c00d0 100644
--- a/conduwuit-example.toml
+++ b/conduwuit-example.toml
@@ -1120,27 +1120,34 @@
 
 # Allow local (your server only) presence updates/requests.
 #
-# Note that presence on continuwuity is very fast unlike Synapse's. If
-# using outgoing presence, this MUST be enabled.
+# Local presence must be enabled for outgoing presence to function.
+#
+# Note that local presence is not as heavy on the CPU as federated
+# presence, but will still become more expensive the more local users you
+# have.
 #
 #allow_local_presence = true
 
-# Allow incoming federated presence updates/requests.
+# Allow incoming federated presence updates.
 #
-# This option receives presence updates from other servers, but does not
-# send any unless `allow_outgoing_presence` is true. Note that presence on
-# continuwuity is very fast unlike Synapse's.
+# This option enables processing inbound presence updates from other
+# servers. Without it, remote users will appear as if they are always
+# offline to your local users. This does not affect typing indicators or
+# read receipts.
 #
 #allow_incoming_presence = true
 
 # Allow outgoing presence updates/requests.
 #
-# This option sends presence updates to other servers, but does not
-# receive any unless `allow_incoming_presence` is true. Note that presence
-# on continuwuity is very fast unlike Synapse's. If using outgoing
-# presence, you MUST enable `allow_local_presence` as well.
+# This option sends presence updates to other servers, and requires that
+# `allow_local_presence` is also enabled.
 #
-#allow_outgoing_presence = true
+# Note that outgoing presence is very heavy on the CPU and network, and
+# will typically cause extreme strain and slowdowns for no real benefit.
+# There are only a few clients that even implement presence, so you
+# probably don't want to enable this.
+#
+#allow_outgoing_presence = false
 
 # How many seconds without presence updates before you become idle.
 # Defaults to 5 minutes.
@@ -1174,6 +1181,10 @@
 
 # Allow sending read receipts to remote servers.
 #
+# Note that sending read receipts to remote servers in large rooms with
+# lots of other homeservers may cause undue strain on the CPU and
+# network.
+#
 #allow_outgoing_read_receipts = true
 
 # Allow local typing updates.
@@ -1185,6 +1196,10 @@
 
 # Allow outgoing typing updates to federation.
 #
+# Note that sending typing indicators to remote servers in large rooms
+# with lots of other homeservers may cause undue strain on the CPU and
+# network.
+#
 #allow_outgoing_typing = true
 
 # Allow incoming typing updates from federation.